Dating More Than One Person At A Time

It is completely acceptable to date more than one person at a time-under most circumstances. If you are married or engaged, this is not one of those times. Dating more than one person at a time does not work for everyone. Some people prefer to keep things simple by devoting their time and attention upon one person at a time. If you are one of these people, you will know it. You will probably not be interested in this article and you will have a historical tendency towards serial monogamy. That's not to say that you shouldn't give this a try if it sounds appealing to you.

Depending on your circumstances, you may want to tell the different people involved. In today's day and age, I think that it is often assumed that a relationship is open and that those involved are free to date multiple people until a time when mutual exclusivity is discussed or when the relationship crosses a certain sexual line. Preferable before the sexual line has been crossed, a conversation has already taken place. If not, it may be time to have one. Assess your expectations and talk to your partner about them. Be prepared to hear whatever he has to say regardless of whether it agrees with how you feel and think and know that perhaps he isn't the right person for you at this time if you both can't be happy and get what you want from your relationship.

Dating more than one person at time is best for people who are well organized and who enjoy a wide variety of characteristics in a mate. This is not simply a matter of being attracted to blondes and brunettes. It is a matter of liking to be a caretaker AND liking the feeling of being taken care of or liking a night on the town AND a night at home watching a movie and knowing that the you can't always get both qualities within the same person. Don't get me wrong, most people are capable of balancing certain characteristics, but it just isn't the same as dating two or more people who are completely different and who have completely different things to offer. There are many fish in the sea and depending on your mood and your decisions, you can be very happy with one or more at the same time.

If you are not particularly comfortable talking to a person that you are dating about your views on dating more than one person, then I recommend being extremely organized. Regardless of how organized you are, I recommend taking some notes about the person, his likes and dislikes, and his best qualities and points that have come up in conversation. This will serve as a great reminder about why you like a particular person, and if the time should arise when you want to decide between several mates, these notes will prove to be very valuable in helping you to make that decision.