Fun With Fantasy and Fetishes

Fantasy and fetish are personal. As with all things in life, people have a wide variety of interests, differences, and experiences. Fantasy and fetish can be a fun way to both learn about your partner and to teach them about yourself. The more you know about your partner, the more exciting fantasy and fetish can be for you and the development of your relationship.

Fantasy can be as simple as role-playing, the use of costumes or toys, a change in location, time of day, or in position. What do you dream about? What does your partner want to do? If you don't have any particular fantasies in mind, I suggest that you start with something very simple, like one person blindfolded and while the other person alternates between drinking a warm drink and then kissing the blindfolded person's body.

Some simple items to purchase and have on hand for a night of fun include: feathers, ribbons, ice, a warm drink, whipped cream, chocolate syrup, massage oil, and a blindfold. It doesn't take much imagination to figure out what to do with these items. You don't have to plan anything special beforehand either. As your night unfolds, you can just decide to try something new. As time goes on, you may choose to look for new ideas on the internet. There are lots of suggestions in the form of toys and articles to give you new ideas.

Not all people have what would strictly be defined as a fetish, but as we develop sexually, we all establish preferences and turn-ons. Talking about your turn-ons and including those body parts or sensations within your experiences will help to heighten your pleasure. Be creative. Think of the parts of your body that are the most sensitive, like your neck and your fingers. Ask your partner to kiss these parts and kiss his parts simultaneously or in return. Try something new like wearing heels and jewelry to bed. Highlight the parts of your body that you love the most. If your partner has a fetish that you find a little strange, be open-minded and try it at least once. You may find something new that you like too.

With all sexplay, I recommend prior communication as well as some kind of universal sign for stop. This will ensure that if you or your partner is uncomfortable, you can convey your desire to stop the play. This signal may also help you to feel comfortable experimenting knowing that at any time you can stop the play and your partner will understand.